If you're not going to take a woman seriously then you shouldn't bother wasting her time. The activities you described are the kind of things I like doing with people. That's significant resources that could otherwise be spent on toys or just to have a great time together. He really wanted to date women with children, not as a fetish, but because he had been a foster kid, and had idealized family dynamics. Since then I have gotten really close to her.
. I admit, things were rocky here and there and we had plenty of breaks during the years we've been together. Otherwise, if I come along and try to have a family of my own with a woman who already has a child, I'm basically just an asterisk to a family already in progress, made by someone else. Its a weird thing I know but it is pretty much reality. I had the chance to go out with a girl who had a kid and she was beautiful. It finally came to the point where he had a nervous breakdown and we pretty much said to him that it may seem shitty it felt shitty to say so , but those kids are not yours, and you won't do them any good anyway if you end up sick or dead. There are some elements of dating women with children that are not negative, or are tolerable, or some that may even possibly be enjoyable.
This is the place he reserves for family or as-good-as family. I don't ever see myself bringing a new man around my children. Never mind if they want involved with someone with a kid! I can't tell you how many men are damaged because of some encounter with a woman like that. This situation is different, because he already takes on that role for his child while still taking decent care of himself. My kids have a father, who I expect to provide for his kids.
I feel that a woman with a child or children will not have time to spend with me alone. You get a bit of perspective about your own age. If you have more kids with her and later divorce you will be paying for the ones that were never yours. Get used to it and keep your jealousy intact. We eventually broke off the romantic aspects of our relationship, but we remained friends. They would talk to my brothers and I a bit so they can get to know us a little but it wasnt like they were trying to become our new father or mother figure and help raise us.
What obligation does he have to that women or her kids? Sometimes I would imagine playing video games and football with the kid just as a friend. Some separated amicably and are both very much involved with their children, sometimes as a family unit for sake of the event. People in general are faulty it is not exclusive to either sex men just get the short end of the stick because their dirty laundry is out there for the world to see but in this day and age women are just as selfish, superficial and promiscuous as men. I'm going to wait till I established myself before picking up a kid. Its already to risky getting involved with a woman these days and one with kids is even worse.
This tells your girlfriend that you're interested in developing a strong relationship with her, and tells her kids that you're also prioritizing them into your life and that you care about bonding with them. Penilizing all men for what some do is just stupid and wrong. If you r looking for a mate, cool, but if you r looking for someone who will take care of you and your babies, men flee sometimes. I agree we must look after ourselves and eat healthily. I just don't like the idea of leaving him and her if it comes to that.
The bad news goes out to all of you fanciful foodies myself included. If you're friends with kids get good guys. Edit 2: A lot of people are saying stuff about poor decision making if you have a child early on in life, which is true, but people learn and change, especially when you're given such a large responsibility. How often is the father in the childs life? He's my best friend, and I love him even more knowing how well he gets along with my kids. I'm sure you have your own skeletons in your closet. Anyways, I think you are a lovely person, but it takes time for genuine and affectionate feelings to 'bloom' so to speak.
But I am sure not to many women, believe the cock and bull story you are trying to sell either. Yes there are some who make that decision to have a child that young and most times it is irresponsible of them but most cases are of those that tried to protect themselves yet end up getting pregnant anyways. I would date a woman with kids from different fathers if I liked her. If not, even a girl with one child is better than your situation now. First of all, I assume that a 20 year old single mother is probably not the best decision maker.