Most girls are not attracted to nice guys, and that is not going to change. How many times have you been told that you need to love yourself first? Go for a walk, do exercise, eat healthy food, get enough sleep, relax, play, get a massage, buy yourself something, clean your car, go out with friends, listen to music, there are many ways how to take good care of yourself. Often going after women who are already in relationships, they misrepresent their intentions and try to use emotional manipulation and the facade of friendship as an excuse to get closer to them and score with them. So she decided to block me on social media, to protect herself as I have heard afterwards. They start perceiving themselves as flawed.
Lots of really tough dudes are complete wussies around women. But let's talk about the word nice because it often gets conflated with being weak, desperate, and a pushover. And here's a bit of psychology for ya: humans weirdly want something more when they can't have it, which might explain why nice guys and everyone else tend to aggressively pursue a woman who does not return their affections. I also guarantee that she'd be coming back three days later saying how sorry she was. But what you need to do is be a great guy. If you feel powerless, the best survival strategy is a smooth life.
He assumes if he makes a woman happy by being nice, she will recognize his greatness and start paying attention to his needs — have sex with him, in other words. This is why women want diamond rings, despite there is no discernable difference between fake diamond and diamond. I'm curious how many women out there in real life you have had this discussion with have actually agreed with you. Nice guys think the friend zone is a punishment. We compliment women and give them presents because we are just nice When was the last time you gave a man a present for no apparent reason? The proper term is Nice Guy with the quotation marks included, indicating that his niceness is not genuine but is simply given in the expectation of female attention and affection.
I am not saying the other party should be obligated to send packets - I am saying that the one receiving them, and not sending them, should make it clear that they won't spend any packets back. They believe if they do all things the right way, they will live a happy, problem-free life and everything they ever wanted will fall straight into their laps. As I mentioned - men have to live with the reality that they will be rejected dozens if not hundreds or thousands of times throughout their live. But they are only covering their own butts. Trust me, you don't hate this race more than I do - I never signed up for it.
Ultimately, I think the word nice is an easy crutch for men to fall back on, just as men are intimidated by me is a crutch for women who don't want to examine their thoughts and their behaviors with men. It's what I call the How did he get her? I've certainly had my share of boyfriends who acted ambivalently. We are literally, scientifically geared to. Problem is, women in the beginning, aren't looking for that. No its not, its just the basics of human communication, even bad people do these things, no joke. I explained the thought process of what you would call nice guys, so that you understand how they see the world, and experience it.
I said or meant to say if someone gives an honest gift, think. As often as we ladies say those chaotic personality traits aren't what we're looking for in a boyfriend, they are. The nicer the guy, the darker the sexual secrets is usually the rule. They are not protecting anyone, they are trying to keep their world smooth. I believe nearly all women go through their bad boy phase — some earlier on, some much later.
Personally, I have never lashed out at someone for a rejection I have lashed out over a breakup though, and I am not proud of that, but that was all that made sense at the time. These are all forms of dishonesty. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. Maybe she thought I expected something in return, but when people make assumptions. A lot of guys get lost in these definitions. However, most women seem to have the concepts confused.
In a quite recent study, women were given shirts worn by different men. But the payback expectations are very unrealistic and then they feel like they get very little in return for their generosity. Always being nice is a form of neediness. And to the men out there: If you're looking for a healthy, connected relationship, why would you want to be with a woman who doesn't demand that men treat her well? Well, as you can see, things that might seem charming in a romantic comedy are, in fact, very creepy in real life. And, she works harder for his affection. She is attracted and you move things forward to kissing, sex and a relationship. Why would I have to lie about my positive qualities just to conform to people's definition of humbleness? Nice guys believe that if they put their needs first, other people will see them as selfish and needy.
All the drama turned into painful memories. We didn't remain friends very long. Their behavior is just a manipulative mask in hopes of getting something they want. That's actually not what I did. I mean, I'm a guy, so it makes sense. I am not a fan of this behaviour, but you won't get rid of this instinct in most men.
Nice guys are into commitment. But there is one even bigger catch in the nice guy game. It's insanely hard to be confident when all your life you had been told you are inadequate or less than others. I think I may have just found one. Had that have been me, she would have got the hell out and I would have kept the calendar. All the excitement turned into a migraine. And it reminds me of some of my friends who are often broke and strapped-down when they have a girlfriend, even though she has her own job and income.