But bottomline I still love her after all that she has done and continues to do. My pictures where all taken down and I was denied even being in a real relationship and accused of being a wife beater when the most I have ever done is hold her down to talk when I confronted her on the first time I caught her cheating from that separation but let her handle it. I would feel a shitload of resentment about what happened still. I just want more than anything for her to admit of her own volition what she did, own up to it, take responsiblility, and ask forgiveness for what she actually did, not her watered down version of how events transpired. I still am tiring to take things day by day. I asked her if this was payback for my past indiscretion, she said not at all. Cuddling with pretty boys is fun too, but it's harder to come by; most straight guys don't like to cuddle with another straight guy in a hammock.
Since she hurt you, and since that pain is new, she owes you sympathy, and she owes you time to get over it - not 20 years, but enough for you to recover on your terms. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was. Anger is just a defense mechanism for sadness theyre the same thing, but anger doesnt allow you to properly process your sadness feel both of them, as a little bit of anger is healthy, but dont channel all the sadness into it. Sometimes we can still choose to move on for our own happiness and well being, but still love the person unconditionally. He slept with and had a relationship with an 18 year old for 6 months. I saw the movies he made of their encounters in hotel rooms and in our home.
Long story short we married 1 year later. Please, do something with your life while your young. Or, you may still be a bit in the dark about it. I think it will help you get over a lot of the anger and hurt as well. Love is not one sided its take two to make it work. One year has passed, this is October again.
While I used to be very skeptical of polys, most of what I've read indicates that they have come light-years in recent decades. She also admitted to an emotional relationship with a woman swore on a stack of bibles and our kids lives that it was not sexual and im not sure if that's worse but it hurt more as she told me that the relationship with the man was purely physical. It doesn't make you two closer, it makes her more attached to you then the other guys she had opportunities with. If you take her back, you will only reward her behavior, showing that you would tolerate her infidelity. My point is only that it's not unusual to obsess over these things. If she loved you why lie to you for over two decades? We get along great, we enjoy one another's company, our love is strong and we have amazing, wonderful sex. And those bad parts made some decisions — and may be still making decisions — that are bad for us, bad for our family… and just plain bad.
A week went by where we did other couple activities together. Moreno, she is still sleeping with her boss who married as well and has 4 children. If you go back over those many years I am sure you can pick out the highs and the lows as a couple as well as individually. Sure, one would have the greatest majority of the blame and it would be just but, the other person had a role, even a infinitely small but quantifiable role in the disappointment of said infidelity. Testing the kids will upset them, i get it, but they have the right to know.
She may not want to tell - but she does remember. I had one and only one wish from her. Even we need forgiveness, it is not just reserved for those who have done you wrong. But, this issue is something that you apparently need to talk about! But if she chose not to work on her married then you need to know that you are worth more then she giving you. She says it is not something she did before or has done since.
If so, is there a different way of doing it, as the fact of the affair itself might well be a red herring, since the truth likely lies less with the what and more with the why of it. Recently, while going through some old boxes in the basement, I ran across her diary and discovered that she had an affair while we were engaged. That's why this situation is so shocking to me and all my friends and family and I desparately need some insight from the Reddit community. I still don't know if I have the full truth, but I suspect not even though she claims otherwise. Four children and a nice lavishing life and she still. That would make her a very noble, humble woman.
I would suspect you've never met with this situation before, but it has a way of making the time spent together between when it happened, and when you found out about it seem somehow 'hollow. I think i am elgible to answer u r question. These principles are the key to your healing — but 99% of men get them wrong or in the wrong order. Also, I hope you realize she is wearing you down by making you discuss and fight every little step no matter how evident. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned. We ve almost worked things out a few times but something always comes up and she is now living with her ex and mom and brother to take care of the kids.