I wish I had had Lexapro when my 4 kids were all little. I was also in a special private school and had made some friends. She has been on antidepressants in the past but doesnt want to use them long term. And they need you or me or someone around to blame. And be sure and follow that with writing about your wife's positive aspects--what you appreciate about her. He was texting and calling women from multiple dating sites. I always find a way to be happy but this time all the pain inside of me is unbearable and unbroken.
If you're living with the father, take turns so that ou can both get some uninterrupted sleep time. This has the potential of backfiring in such a way that she'll become even more exasperated with you. She doesnt have friends because she dedicated herself to me. I can control myself and my actions most of the time. I need to make a change or it will continue. This is my life, it hurts to know my husband can treat me in such a way. Rest all will fall into place.
Let's keep each other posted with what we are doing to help ourselves out of this. Over the years she has learned the bad side of me and it is causing all of us our life. Fast forward back to him being a drunk. I feel like I just don't care about anything anymore and I have very little motivation to anything at all. I cry just reading the article and comments.
You can make your wife fall with you, all over again. My husband works 2 jobs and owns his own business in order to make the bills. And hanging out more and more until we got close enough for her to have another episode again. I totally agree - it is easier to wrote than change and most people do exactly that - they project their better self into writing, almost wishful thinking like. I literally had to walk on eggshells to prevent him from getting angry.
She does not know how to communicate properly. Prior to the marriage we attempted to set out ground rules. Its sad when you see it from a distance. I came across this forum by accident, and I was very glad to see that someone pinpointed the problem to loss of identity. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. They have a different personality and different ways of doing things. But geesh…i truly regret asking the question.
I don't want to be this person, but I don't know how go about making it better. I started reading a lot about the nature of mind, after death experiences, and so on. Decisions in a marriage or loving relationship are best the outcome of negotiated compromise. You need to pull her aside when he is not around and explain to her that this is in no way her fault. Including our Pastor who recently lost his wife. He asked for the good times to come back. The effects are deeply rooted and continue because during their entire childhood, these mothers used their eldest or only son to establish an unbreakable emotional bond.
Mind you the road will be bumpy but your hope in happiness in life will get you through. Should I stand strong or something like that? What really upsets me as all the therapy I went to, none of them had the eagerness to help us. This is why it is important to be assertive. I have a 12 year old and keep thinking its time to get out. But why these days, when women work just as hard as men outside the home, are they still responsible for pretty much everything that goes on in it? Rather, we should strive to serve one another.
Bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorders etc. Sadness for the loss of connection, sadness for missed opportunities. Much like I use to be, my wife had fallen prey to the intoxicating high of lashing out and putting someone down. Also, how would you react if I told you she's emotionally abusing you? I have been deeling with an angry person for 3 years. But communication can make or break a marriage.