They left home or their college roommate for a marriage or romantic partner. Is this the after effects of narc trauma? He was a massive copier — he studied and copied just about everything I said and did. Have you talked to her about how you are feeling? Both my younger son and I are at the depths of despair that my eldest is a mirror image of the Father. I am trying to go back to spending more time with friends and family but still always having this empty feeling when away from him. Each reading I am able to understand a little more…even though, I will be totally honest, I have a really hard time understanding Narcissism. I feel as if my body occupies space but my heart is empty.
When we shift consciousness, it feels like the lamp shade comes off our head — and we see clearly… … understandings that truly explain what went on, and understandings that take so much of the pain away and offer so much release, up-levelling and expansion. Read books, blogs, sites newspaper, everything. His sex drive comes and goes also, even being a younger man. I have spent time working on my life, strengthening friendships, doing things that I love doing. March 24, 2014 Hi Sharon, you are so welcome! Everybody has their own limit, Marine reminds. Then try to identify your feelings, what is pleasant, what is not, what you like and not, what scares you, what do you fear and deal with them.
I'm hoping and praying today will be better. She would be naturally very clear how unhealthy and abusive that is. I have learned to identify, accept and embrace mine and to protect them better from dangerous people. I found myself having to give her the support and care she never could provide me when I was younger. In this way, you kill both birds with one stone, kill the resentment between you to, and increase respect and sexual attraction. What does your heart say about your relationship problems? I can trust in life and trust in myself when I remind myself — the benefits from having known a narcissist.
After all love is said to be a chemical reaction to keep two people together to raise children. A week later he asked me to marry him, again, second time. I was indeed having some doubts about myself and my ability to ever feel that I would ever really be free from the damage the ex narc has left in his wake. Claudia Tress July 2, 2016 Hello, I know this post was written a couple of years ago, but I just read it for the first time today and learned many thanks things about the second Narcissist that had not occurred to me before. If sex is very important to a person, the narcissist will find ways to lose attraction, and interest and may turn to pornography or other outlets to avoid intimacy. Your whole self, with its ideas, thoughts and feelings are painted on the blank canvas of emptiness. Thank you for your insights they have truly helped me even though I have fallen backwards at times! You seem like an insightful, intelligent person.
Your wounded self may see you as inadequate, unlovable, not good enough, not important, selfish, bad, wrong. When your partner makes you feel more like you have a cold or flu, rather than on top of the world, they are draining you emotionally. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on your career. I understand the depth of narcissistic derangement and the permanent damage sustained to their formation of self but I cannot bring myself to only see them as non- persons or dead — other than for purposes of illustration of how dangerous and utterly resistant such personalities can be. He likes being with me because he tells me he feels my energy. But this stuff I feel when alone……. What is the relationship between emotional numbness and extreme emotional sensitivity? Thank you again you have reassured me I have done the right thing despite the fallout.
It is what you wake up to in the morning. Like we dont really hang with friends as often as we used to so we really have just each other and that cool. When you abandon yourself by judging yourself, ignoring your feelings by staying in your head, numbing your feelings through substance and process addictions, and making others responsible for your feelings and for loving you, you will feel empty. So, so true we can be enormously grateful for these experiences! Abandoning ourselves can spark , , guilt and shame, she said. This also may be significant for a noncustodial parent, for whom is a major source of self-esteem.
The Cause of Inner Emptiness There is only one thing that truly fills the emptiness. · How do we learn to listen and accept? Keep gently investigating this puzzle. I get to see him 3 times a week and i sleep at his on tues nights he want me around more but i say no cos i like my personal time and love my family. When faced with an extreme situation such as childhood abuse, trauma or , it is natural for our body and psyche to go into 'numbing mode' as part of a freezing response. Things cannot go back to the way they used to be.
She throws public temper tantrums like a 2 or 3-year-old does and then turns it around to look like it was your fault. I just watched your demonstration on Youtube, and I see that I am being resistant, even though I really have a sincere determination to heal. Your actions would be authentic and clear. It's hard to get your relationship problems solved without a foundation. Suzanne March 28, 2014 Found this article very helpful in explaining something that I did not understand.