I have been depressed off and on my whole life. The world keeps getting smaller and our options only increase year by year. I do not have the emotional strength to deal with their demands and crazy mind bending, distorted attempts to begin a relationship. We will never completely understand the opposite sex, and all the reasons they feel what they feel, and do what they do. Depression and anxiety run in both sides of my family. My status quo is suffocating me, but my husband is happy and content and unwilling to change. I know I would not be here of it was not for him.
I really wonder why I am here and I feel sometimes that if I could go back aqnd have a choice I would never choose to be born. But it is super duper hard and frustrating. I don't really know why I feel so sad, he hasn't done anything wrong. What is your purpose on this earth? He definatley has the coldest heart and always gets mad about things I say, and problems I have at school. Nevertheless, you have six months invested in this guy, and you really want it to work, right? I have suggest breaking up as I thought he was being mean so I could break up with him but he says no. There is no knight in shining armor, There is no second chance — we are doomed by our mistakes.
If your partner's being right means that there's no ability to admit mistakes, that's a problem. We had been together 5 years 9 months and 15 days. The time my grandmother passed away. In fact, there is a whole book written on this very topic called the five love languages. Your article has made me feel slightly better, as knowing there are so many people out there in the same boat.
I have no accomplishments, nothing to be proud of. You would replay in your mind all the sweet things he said, and know that you'll never hear those from him again. During arguments I was unable to stop myself from saying things exactly the way she said. Finally, sweetheart, think about how it will feel at that point, to break up with him. Being in a relationship makes my depression so much worse.
I want to part of something stable, nothing in my life is stable. Hi Carol, Since I am the introverted type who only has a few friends, I might ask you: Is spending time with this social group worth it if you keep having to run into this person? I've been dating my boyfriend for only 2 months now we've known each other for a year though. This person should sometimes make you feel sad. Every part of my life is affected. I was a good mother but I did take a lot out on my son, and I am paying for it big time.
I have spent many a night on the phone with him, bawling my eyes out because I felt this sickening fear that I couldn't even begin to describe. There doesn't seem to be true freedom in a relationship because the partner has exceptions of you. Could you stay with your friends or bf for a week or two until you find a summer job --anything will do, even though you might doubt if you are in a state of mind to keep a job, it's okay, but you just need to feel like you can do something again-- and start seeing a therapist regularly over the summer? I went through the same thing at 29. If he still doesn't seem to care, he doesn't deserve another shot. You will be heart broken and things will be hard for a little while, but things will quickly get better.
I really do not have a large or active social group these days, but I know the few friends I have now will never demean me. I have general anxiety and adhd inattentive type and havr been on medication for the past 3 years. But no matter how much I think about and plan out ending my life, no matter how much time i spend just sitting by a creek staring at the water or in my car just hiding from the world realizing or convincing myself that life is crap and i have a very convincing argument , no matter how much i do these unproductive things…i still somehow get myself to a gym and get in crazy good shape, manage to stop smocking cigs and having my two beers a week and manage to be an awesome bf that always puts the feelings of her before my own. Many men are so overwhelmed by emotion when they see their sweetie crying that they just shut down. There is research that shows that.
Give him space to talk, to be honest with you. I must brush my teeth, get showered, dressed, and go to get a coffee. We ran into each other eight months ago and were excited to get back together. I found the path out of depression by following my desires—to write, to travel, to become a mother and a creativity coach. College may not be for everyone, but a degree can certainly help you in most careers today. Now we are back at college and living in our own apartments and I have never been so moody and upset. Since the problems started when we moved in together and since I started going to the bathroom with the door open in front of him , I began thinking, T his is all my fault.
The deadline is looming, the boss is breathing down his neck, the job's future is precarious. I know that what you say is true. Always getting married and divorced. I should set a better example It is sad. I very rarely compliment my gf, and it has nothing to do with love.