In any case, most people who are immigrating undocumented don't bring their kids. Sure, you don't have to be Chinese to experience this, but this kind of thing is actually the goal of keqi as opposed to some kind of accidental resentment-causing situation. Grit not the comfort food is a necessary ingredient for success. As I've matured, i've been able to talk to my parents about literally everything. Before, i was a happy person, now ive been so beat down by all the critiques.
That is so long as their daughters are able to bring home a tasteful suitor, the daughter can do what she pleases most of the time. A lot of Americans can't tell the difference between different Asian races visually, but that's understandable, since we all look nearly identical. I have neither touched the piano or violin in over 20 years now due to my disdain for them. Knees on floor, forehead on ground, hands behind me. Most children will get beaten the shit out of them. The fact is, it's not just asian parents who beat their kids, but it's possibly just not as much of a taboo in their minds, in their society in comparison to the american society, for example. And, it is through my siblings that I was able to define family support, family hugs, family understanding, and family love.
I did what I could, but it was usually unenjoyable. Wait, no, you can't get an F because you'd already be dead. Not saying there aren't some miracle stories but as for most poor families in America its not the norm. This is why evolution has made men: Bigger Stronger Smarter 10% more brain mass. You'll need to have a strong business sense to do things like that. While many of the methods run counter to our American culture, we believe that no other investment a parent can make will provide as many long-term rewards.
Money, relationships, and success may come and go at the worst time. I hate how Asian kids are instilled with a belief that their parents are perfect people who are never wrong. When I was younger I did the whole goth thing. That being said, it sounds like your financial situation is fine now so they should probably just get a reality check and wash some damn clothes. Every student or athlete needs pushing to achieve higher standards.
But many parents don't know that maybe you're still not ready to have certain responsibilities yet which is actually normal until someone's around 20! I definitely can see the discreptioncy between the way that I am treated and that my sister is. Totally agree that the idea of men being superior is related to Confucianism and filial piety — these ideals are so entrenched in Asian culture that if one opposed them, they would be unfortunately looked down upon. Essentially, I think you're mostly just experiencing the results of your parents' unwillingness to adjust to American ways of thinking. I'd be willing to bet that unless they're super rich, your parents had to do a lot of scraping together to get enough money to immigrate and make a life in a countr who's currency is much stronger than that of their home country. If it survives, it will be thanks in large part to continued Asian immigration and an audience that is increasingly imported.
After all, Asians aren't good at anything not pertaining to academics. Also, parents lie like a lot of other ppl who lie because a lot of reasons: they don't want you to know about something because they think you might make the wrong decisions for yourself. Sometimes I wish they would have just aborted me. For example, when he tested out if the airline business was worth getting into, he struck a deal with Boeing to be able to return all his planes for free if his business failed, thereby eliminating a majority of the investment cost. And the Asian juggernaut has yet to move much beyond the orchestra pit.
I learned in psychology class is that there is positive and negative reinforcement and positive and negative punishment. How have your parents benefitted and hurt you? It can last from fifteen minutes to an hour. Even tho they beat you because you did something wrong or bad Thats the only time I get beat is when i'm bad! The population of Asian-Americans is around 17E6, while the population of Asia is around 4E9. In the distant, barbaric past. Many Asian American families made it to the middle class from poverty in one generation. So you go to a restaurant everyone hates to satisfy everyone. Being sheltered leads you to have some funny ideas about things when you get out in the real world, as you well know if you grew up in a hippie commune or an Amish village--or if you've watched fish-out-of-water comedies, like the ones Brendan Fraser often makes.
Do not mix guidance with manipulation. Charlie explained how ridiculous it would be if we chose not to invent airplanes or start the airline business because we feared that someone may die. Our role during the day was to obey our teachers and do our best in the classroom; our role at night was to obey our parents and focus on our continued studies at home which included homework, review of previously learned material and any additional assignments our parents gave us. Oh yeah, you will be labeled as an embarrassment. Everyone who has even the slightest connection to a foreign culture knows that you milk it for cool names. As such, they are prestigious as well nowadays high tech engineering is sexier than medicine.
My mom left before I ever walked my first steps. What some people don't realize that it hurts our parents just as much when they are disciplining us, its not because they enjoy hitting us but because they want to show us what is right and wrong. Asian families have higher household incomes and more education than other groups nationally. But there are a lot of other reasons for doing this - and they might not always be good or fair reasons, but i hope you can try to see things through their eyes somehow. Pro tip: They're pretty much just ch and sh respectively.