We fumbled around with the condom in the dark, but eventually realized it would be easier with the lights on. The sex was great, and the marriage has been my best yet. A good partner should be considerate of your feelings and willing to help you through the process. I knew I wanted to sleep with him. If you're picturing something sealing off your vagina like plastic wrap, know that's just not the case. And what if your worst nightmare comes true? I had just gotten out of a pretty bad relationship and while I liked Rob, I don't know if I was immediately ready to jump into another one.
But other than that l think it was pretty perfect as far as virgins go. I had been dating a guy for less than a month when he told me, 'We need to have sex so we can figure out if we have a spark to continue dating. Plus, it's totally possible to get pregnant during your first time, so always be safe! I was 17, drunk at a beach concert, called a guy that we had an on and off thing and we had sex in the back of his pickup car. And then a 1-2 minutes later it was over. I liked the feeling of being so close to him.
Finally, my birthday came, and his family was home, so we snuck into his backyard and went into a children's playhouse adorned with little kitchenware and dolls. We spent time after just cuddling and I felt so happy. If you are scared of pain, read the article for tips. My boyfriend at the time and I had been together for about eight months and things were getting serious, so we decided to do it. Before then, I hadn't gone very far past first base.
But even when I had the chance to, I had always chosen not to go all the way for some reason and I had to trust myself. I was just so ready to 'get it over with,' and this guy was and still is a great guy. I always think our sex is really good though. There's no cure for endo and treatments are limited, but there are more ways to enjoy sex than just intercourse alone. I know a lot of people whose first time was with someone they loved, and now sex is this sacred thing for them — whereas for me, sex is really just an act of pleasure. I for sure knew what one felt like since I had had them many times before doing all sorts of other sexual activities. Though, next time I hope not to have to say the words, I swear this usually doesn't happen.
Brandon : You could say I was overly excited. She said she was fine with that, even though she wasn't a virgin. I met a guy during summer orientation the weekend before I started college. She told me she wanted it to be special for the both of us. Before we did it, I felt extremely nervous, but a good kind of nervous — it was something I really wanted to do, I just didn't want to mess it up.
After a month of dating we decided to lose our virginities to each other. Now I think I'm more prepared than before. I thought telling girls that I had never had sex would hurt my chances. Woman A: I wish I knew how wonderful the feeling was and how important it is as a woman to embrace yourself as a sexual being. Woman A: I was 21 and my partner was 24. There wasn't one specific moment when it happened.
Woman A: I immediately told my roommates when I got home the next morning. If something is causing you pain or discomfort, tell them. If you feel tense when you think about sex or when you and your partner are fooling around, it might be a sign that you should wait. I really think that shapes how I treat sex now. It wasn't painful, but it honestly didn't feel like anything at all was happening.
We finally did it after volunteering at Special Olympics one day. It was no worse than period cramps. Part of me wanted to get it over with, and the other just felt a sense of breaking free. Then I took him back to my room. Talking with your partner can establish trust while helping you feel more positive about having sex. It was super unexpected and definitely not planned. He was the first one to suggest we meet in person, and after the initial fear of it I agreed to meet him.
He made me feel better about the experience, and we are still together two and a half years later. I love my boyfriend and I was ready, so we had sex. I asked a year after and she said it was because she had been molested as a kid and she wanted my first sexual experience to be positive. Our relationship eventually turned rocky — pretty typical for a high school relationship — but I'd like to think we're friends now. Mostly me touching hers as she was the one who liked it best.
Also, before you even have intercourse, you could have broken your hymen when using tampons, during masturbation or even with strenuous exercise. After a month of dating we decided to lose our virginities to each other. Dave : I never had any luck making a relationship work well when it was based on sex. I didn't have sex again for another two and a half years. Woman C: My best friends in college, we were a group of 8 girls and I probably texted them like 5 minutes after it ended. It was a bit awkward since I had one of those bed frames with the desk underneath that you had to climb a ladder to get to the bed part. And then it sort of just happened to me rather than me choosing whether or not I wanted to.