I have heard too many of these life stories and they are very painful. I had a total ankle replacement about a year ago and I didn't complain nearly as much as he does over a sore toe…. When I was young, there was never any nurturance, a hand on the forehead, a cool washcloth during a fever. Anyway, my mother stalked into the dining room and announced to my husband and stepfather, I asked Sue to help me after my heart surgery, and she doesn't want to. They may antagonize as a boy starts to turn into a man, frequently trying to wrestle or pick fist fights.
I defend Aunt Scapegoat but to no avail. To keep saying thank you , you are so kind , wonderful , amazing. I have never felt happier or more at peace, when I was low or no contact with her. They have no sense of limits, nor do they have a conscience. Or if your anger is caused by others take a walk away from them ortune them out. . I am telling him I won't be able to make it to a family gathering in December due to the cold and my breathing problems.
The darkness the light,which one. My friends have helped to keep me going now. I am lucky I did not turn blue or die, thankfully the worse attacks came in college, when I had access to some medical care. At least a narcissist is good for something. I sure as hell hope you don't consent to moving in to help your mother should she need heart surgery.
And in the mean time, my brother is peacefully living somewhere up in Ojai, oblivious to everyone's rantings and gnashings. He always excelled at his job but always had issues with boss. Not only is it a pleasure to still be young enough when kids graduate to be able to pursue new career goals with parents unencumbered fiscally and physically , finding a pet-sitter is the most challenging caretaking event when and if the opportunity to travel arises. There was no experimental doctors for me. I moved to another state and never looked back. This was the time I was groomed to be under her thumb.
I was an embarrassment to her and as I got older, it got worse. Your sickness, in a kind world, means that the others in the household divert more of their energies and concern toward you because they want to help you get well as quickly as possible because they have empathy. Being in Catholic schools instead of public schools made my sliding through the cracks even more likely. That is why it is crazy-making. My mother his enabler until this day.
The abuse is carried out with such perfect subtlety that the victim experiences only insecurity, anxiety and an increased desire to prove herself and to please her abuser. I was told, terrible with money, jumps from one financial crisis to another, arrogant, opinionated, bolshy, low self esteem, complex at times, ley his house get repossessed, overspending, habitual liar, borrowing, taking out loans. My husband of 22 years never felt any sympathy for me after breaking my heart time after time. Anyway, the following morning we went to visit. Unfortunately, the transplant was unsuccessful due to what I believe was a tissue typing or surgical error. It is unfortunate that all my siblings are far flung. If they are offered the top surgeon or the specialist with a reputation, this of itself will satisfy their need for grandiosity and narcissistic supply.
It was a sin to rest simply when tired if the work wasn't done. It was at that exact moment that my brother lost it and walked out; I think he knew her anger was about to destroy yet another family holiday, and he was done with it. I moved more than 10 hours away at the first opportunity, and that was about 30 years ago. That is one sad factor of a growing narcissistic society, be less then healthy and raring to go, or have diseases without a cure, these types will try to make you a nobody. I have gotten into photography lately since friend got us a new good camera.
It sounds like you have someone who's helping with the Lipo currently good for you. The saddest thing is realizing all those years he was just lying to me about loving me and it was just for what he could get from me, eg sex, money, narcissistic supply ect. By going back to your ex you are enabling their behavior. He hAsnt spoken to our child for 2 weeks when I confronted him about the dating website his question was ooooh are you on there too? He would do it for her if he were alive. I recently heard you can not only get addicted to substances but the brain can also become addicted to moods. They live 120 miles from each other so my mother has not served as a caretaker for her except for this short period of weeks. Now it seems every argument, like a typical N, he never stays on topic.