As an adult I've only kissed once, it was a boy from my uni, and I didn't feel anything, I don't know if it's because I didn't have feelings for him or because I don't like men. Also I got a tattoo of rainbow stars that same weekend. Struggling with one's sexual attractions is very common and not just with young people. I actually have a favorite male porn start — George Uhl — because he is very good at his job, and he brings out the enjoying faces of the female who works with him. Not just that you kissed a girl and liked it.
If you are happily married and find yourself attracted to a female friend, it might be quite alarming to discover that you are bisexual. I was born in a muslim family, so I can't date like common people do, only when I'm going to marry if I don't want to have problems with my family of course , the thing is, that I've fell in love platonically with women, all the time, so I was pretty sure I was gay. I'm still a virgin but by choice as I haven't met the right guy yet. Every person I have told has asked me this question and it is not an easy one to answer. My best guy friend of 11 years was completely accepting of me, and lets me interact with him in girl mode dressed , and he treats me like a girl. I mean, by what I've written on here and what I think in my head, I'm bi: I just don't know why I struggle to accept that myself and question it.
I am not sure if this is the right place for this. I was half worried God would strike me down because I had this realisation in a church of all places. Thank you for sharing your insight and for providing all of the wonderful examples in your hub. That being said, I do not believe they have a strong influence on each other, but to me there seems to be somewhat of a correlation between the two. I didn't gag or wretch so that make me a really cool straight chick! For some people things remain the same.
As for girls, thats the more confusing part. We were two American girls navigating damp, downtown London. I am pretty certain you're 100% straight sexuality is the real deal at this point, but I sure respect your self awareness in pursuing the facts. This is certainly a big source of confusion for transpeople, but for most, it becomes clear to them at one point or another. I find myself wanting them just as much. I honestly don't know about all this. Often these women are confused and think that they want a relationship with a man.
He wasn't ugly but he did nothing for me, but one of the girls did. Now if you had asked me that same question about 3 years ago my answer would have been very different. I think you have to try not to over think it too much, which is I know much easier said than done. Transition will not turn me into a girl it will make me look more like what i feel, gender affirmation not change. Not because I'm lesbian, even though one would consider me as a bisexual, but because I found who I was at heart and who I was born to be. I kept the hair elastics I wore that day in a special place and I literally dreamed about her.
I thought about how cute Raine Maida, lead singer of Our Lady Peace, was and then I came to the conclusion that, no, I was not a gay lady. If you meet her at a gay or lesbian bar or at the gay pride parade, chances are she is a lesbian. Even though, I told him that I still have a very small eye for females, that I have and always will be faithfull to him. I thought other boys felt those feelings for other boys. Well - actually, I feel all rules go out the window when you are transsexual, especially during transition. For me sexuality has no relationship to gender identity.
I wouldn't mind sex with a guy, though. After reading all of this I am glad to find out that I am not the only one going over these questions. But, if a boy was being picked on, I was usually the first one to stand up for him and of course, pop a bully right in the noggin. Believe me, that was no small sign. Oh and I use to use the common 'Its just a phase' and the typical 'you just appreciate women too much to see them as sexual objects' excuses. It's pretty easy for me to get along with men or with women, trans or cis, never been with intersexed people who are equally panamourous. Hi, I'm sure you get this question a lot.
So many of our young people are finding their sexuality to alienate them rather than inspire them,. That's just the gross physicality of it, and the things that stick out in my mind. Very difficult but luckily for me I have the such an understanding boyfriend who completely understands, extremely lucky. I wrote in mine, and I quote, I hope there will be more good looking guys in high school or something. The whole thing was very middle school.
Well I don't really know how to explain this. Things which just seemed to come naturally to every other boy--like ability and interest in sports stereotypical, I know, but in my case: true --were total mysteries to me. How do you know if you are a lesbian or not? It was a little weird at first because at this point i was already out to everyone as gay, so i basically had to recome out. HubHugs~ Cardisa~ Thank you for giving us a real life story about your personal encounter with the subject of knowing if one is or is not a lesbian! I went to boot camp training and fell for my roommate. Probably just time will help me, thank you for your kind words. I think it is interesting…we all have two stories, one when we began realizing we were lesbians, and then another when we actually came out. Big HubHugs~ wordscribe43~ I am so honored that you approve of the writing here! After graduation, I went home and got a great job.