It didn't seem worth a blood test. You need comedic anecdotes, with a hint of shock factor, that will silence the inquisitive and provide you some humor in the process. The we'll let you know part was usually understood as a I'm the one that will decide what to say and when, and I don't really want to talk about that anymore, thanks, but in a polite way. One day I had enough and responded loud enough for everyone to hear this is probably because of all the oral sex. Wanted to have kids but were infertile? I am so grateful you are here! Comment on it these are clever or not…. When we're ready could be next month, in 5 years time or even never - we may have never been ready for marriage. Right, start sharing with our community.
Pushing painful buttons is not recommended when dealing with close friends, as it is a cruel move. This will get them puzzled and quiet for a while. Carrots are better than sticks with most humans. From my perspective, this is may be a very serious offence. Laughing is the best way to show your teeth. We like this one because, if used correctly, it makes the person asking the question go silent while sparking a bit of embarrassment. Their preconceived ideas about this are not yours.
If anyone asks me questions I consider to be personal or inappropriate I just become sarcastic and give answers which have nothing to do with the subject or seem to be nonsense, then people stop bothering me, e. Somewhere in the future, might be next month or about 30 years or so ; I have been asked this a lot and I was respectful in my answers along the lines of other answers. I can't think of a time where the So, when are you getting married? Welcome to the world of adults and the responsibilities of forming adult relationships. When I asked a former boss when I would get a raise, he always replied, Some day, just not today. The person you're trying to contact is currently engaged, please try again later.
You need to have a united front and consistent responses. Your relationship status is not just your concern; you are part of broader communities which included society in general, broad circles of friends, your close friends, your intimate friends, broader family, and close family. I would personally use some sarcasm. I leaned back in my chair and whispered so nobody could hear I already am. You want them to stop doing something, so you should not do it yourselves.
I have a friend who was in no rush to get married, in fact, she dated her husband for six years before they tied the knot. Bonus about this tactic, you don't need to discuss it with your partner and talk about the question again. All of these circles feel the effect of your relationship status, and your closest friends and family have a fair amount invested in your happiness and well being. Sometimes for good, depending on how sarcastic you are when answering. But it seems any woman over 25 confronts this question at family gatherings. Sometimes these recommendations are undoubtedly related to historical experience, involving efficiency and possible Competitiveness.
. It's on the one hand more civilized than what would be usual amongst adolescents not so outwardly cruel , but can on the other hand be very bothersome. If you have the kind of family or friends where you can do that, it can be much easier and work wonders. As Scott pointed out, this could well just be teasing. Honestly, a polite answer to this fairly rude question is not easy! It's a polite way of putting off people. The we is the key part as it lets them know that it is a mutual decision. High time to learn about the constant nagging and yanking-of-chains going up in the adult world.
Use the occasion to demonstrate extreme togetherness, that you are an item. Other answers have better ways to deflect the intrusion without attacking in return. Don't try that one on your boss, though! I was hoping to do something meaningful with my life. In addition to using superhero Pearson, many of these digital-only digits will be combined with any exam recording eBook to another grammar to establish an extensive diagnosis of Unloathness. When this happened to me, I just said my girlfriend and I had already talked about it, so we knew what we wanted to say, and how : we're way too young and have a looong list of things to do before we can talk about that! Or how I sometimes respond is more like: Actually. Questions about the next season of life can be fun to dream and talk about at times, but I love the idea of being able to focus on the present and right now. I loved coming across this article today.
We did get married last week in Vegas. They just opened a great singles bar on my block. Then, react as appropriate when being teased by friends; give them a little laugh and talk about something else. Poking at insecurities is rude and you ought not endorse it. His parents: Why don't you ask your son? I don't want to have to support another person on my paycheck. Whatever these people know about you, they're saying that they think you and your girlfriend seem good for each other.
As an Eastern European, I thought that adding a somewhat different perspective might be potentially useful. I wouldn't want my parents to drop dead from sheer happiness. Your friends and family deserve straight answers no, they don't, they deserve respect and all but no one deserves to know any personal detail about anyone else. Neither is better than the other. We were left alone and never bothered with that question again after that. Then I went on explaining what this means for procreation in the for dummies version until the aunt who was constantly asking the question flew away which I made very difficult.
You dislike the pressure it puts on your relationship and would like them to stop asking the question. If it seems like this might be the case, try recognising it for the compliment it is. Guy: Omg I'm in disbelief right now Girl: Oh yeah, your the love of my life! If this is an older, married relative or friend, you might say: Gosh. Whatever kind of body language you can do. For me such questions are innapropriate, almost like bullying so a strong and bold answer is the way to go.