It's only temporary, and if you look, you can see beyond it even while you're still in it. If you know someone who is experienced in a certain field, ask them what they know. Attacking an outsider makes them all insiders. Unlike the more kindly description that I have above about nerdy computer programmers, these geek programmers fall into another category. I see a lot of people try to find the one single perfect design for them and struggle with the large selection. Nerds are bullied to feed the ego of the bullies : they see themselves as dumber or inferior and try to physically belittle or intimidate to make themselves feel better. Things like math, english, history, science, artists, and much more.
If someone had told me that at the time, I would have laughed at him. Nearly everyone I've talked to agrees: the nadir is somewhere between eleven and fourteen. I love them so much that I saved up and got a license to fly them, now I'm part of a group of pilots who are all so excited about helicopters that it's almost autistic as described by a friend. There are wine geeks, car geeks, and Lord of the Rings geeks, each of which closely follows the minutiae of their chosen obsession. It's fun to laugh and draw out stereotypes, but keep in mind that unless proven otherwise, everybody has value. Their attention is drawn to books or the natural world, not fashions and parties. .
The problem is, many schools practically do stop there. The term nerd in the past had a negative connotation. They might not say it, but they're not robots. From nerds to normals: The recovery of identity among adolescents from middle school to high school. If the guy that used to taunt you for playing video games is now wearing an ironic Valve trucker hat and chest-thumping to all his buddies about his kill counts and epic teabaggings and the booth babes he scored with at E3, you would understandably not want to chat with him about which Portal shirt would look cooler on him. Post a Feminist Ryan Gosling Meme.
There is nothing inevitable about the current system. If a nerd asks the question Why is the sky blue? We cannot be placed inside of a box with a label slapped on the outside of it in a plain package. Launch randomly into friendly lectures. It has been suggested by some, such as linguist , that being a nerd may be a state of being hyperwhite and rejecting and slang that cool white children use. Public school teachers are in much the same position as prison wardens. Cultivate your sense of humour - try gently mocking yourself, it stops people who might mock you cruelly dead in their tracks.
Some months later I attended a con where I saw three people wearing fezzes. Other kids' opinions become their definition of right, not just for clothes, but for almost everything they do, right down to the way they walk. Fortunately this is as simple as dressing down, being engaged and acting socially neutral. If you need inspiration, read about some famous nerds in history. So instead of calling our own set of traits nerd things and arguing with other nerds about why traits outside of our set aren't real nerd things, why not just say there's no definitive standard for nerdiness and let us all be the individual things that make us up? Note, however, that just because you're a nerd doesn't mean you have to care about school. If you're looking to not be seen as a nerd--for whatever reason--look to your appearance first.
Spending a little more time brushing up on your feminist theory, building your confidence and cultivating your love for British television will go further to finding you the partner of your dreams. While the nerds were being trained to get the right answers, the popular kids were being trained to please. In a typical American school, standards for coolness are so high or at least, so specific that you don't have to be especially awkward to look awkward by comparison. In , has been observed on May 25 since 2006, the same day as , another somewhat nerdy holiday. They enjoy more wholesome fun, such as , watching Star Wars, or building and launching a. Nerds were originally highly respected intellects. Most women who mentioned looks preferred someone who cared about their appearance — someone who took the time to make themselves look nice rather than giving the impression that they had been attacked by a sentient pile of dirty laundry after having not shaved for four days.
And beyond that, I think all that matters is finding other people that love the same stuff you do. But there is no external pressure to do this well. Pull long hair back out of your face. She will continue the line of questioning until the answer relates to something she already understands completely. And I'm not going to call you a nerd for it.
Teenage kids are not inherently unhappy monsters. Can people purchase them from home? Like a lot of American kids, I read this book in school. Some may even taunt, boo, or try to convince you that No, you have it wrong. Someone has to watch over them, and the most efficient way to do this is to collect them together in one place. Having a friend, or a set of friends, who complement you is as much as anyone could ask for. Your nerd quotient will increase drastically. He'd seem to the kids a complete alien.